Consistency: Provide Security and Comfort to the family

Consistency Provide Security and Comfort to the family

What comes to mind when you think of the word consistency and how it might apply to being a dad? Do words like predictable, steadiness, stability, constancy, uniformity, unity, orderly, dependability, and reliability comes to mind? To make it a reality in the home, what do you do?

Ways to demonstrate consistency in your family:

  • Communication: Communication is key to any relationship. Make sure you have conversations with your partner and children to build consistency. Listen to their concerns and share your own.
    • “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
      – 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)
  • Connection: Regular, in-person contact is a primary component of being in a relationship produces consistency. Spend quality time with your family, and make sure you are present and engaged.
    • “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”
      – Genesis 1:27 (ESV)
  • Follow-through: Follow through on your commitments. If you promise to do something, make sure you do it. This will help build trust and respect.
    • “Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.”
      – Matthew 5:37 (ESV)
  • Be honest and forthright: Honesty is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Be truthful with your partner and children, even if it’s difficult.
    • “Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.”
      – Ephesians 4:25 (ESV)
  • Avoid patterns you can’t maintain: Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Be realistic about what you can and can’t do.
    • “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.”
      – Matthew 5:37 (NKJV)
  • Know your values: Take some time to define your core values. This can help provide direction and guide your decisions.
    • “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
      – Matthew 6:33 (ESV)

Consistency is building trust which helps your wife and children feel safe and comfortable.

Ways to setup routines and habits in the family to build a healthy and happy family:

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Consistency through building routines and habits
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Consistency built on structure and intentionally living will help your family not only find safety and security but also will build relationships that are healthy and happy.

With God as our top priority, we need to be consistent with Him too:

  • Prayer: Prayer is a powerful tool that can help you connect with God. It is important to set aside time each day to pray and communicate with God. This can help you build a stronger relationship with Him.
“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 
- 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

“And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.” 
- Matthew 6:7-8

“But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.” 
- Matthew 6:6
  • Bible Study: Studying the Bible is another great way to stay consistent in your relationship with God. You can set aside time each day to read the Bible and reflect on its teachings. This can help you gain a deeper understanding of God’s word and strengthen your faith.
“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” 
- 2 Timothy 3:16-17

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” 
- Psalm 119:105

“I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.” 
- Psalm 119:11
  • Fellowship: Fellowship with other believers is also important in maintaining a consistent relationship with God. You can join a church or a small group to connect with other believers and grow in your faith together.
“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” 
- Hebrews 10:24-25

“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” 
- Matthew 18:20

“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” 
- 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Topic: Consistency

Verse: Psalms 119:33 NIV

Teach me, LORD, the way of your decrees, that I may follow it to the end.

Psalm 119 is a beautiful chapter in the Bible that emphasizes the importance of God’s Word and how it can help us lead a consistent life. Firstly, let’s be dads who want to live consistently for the sake of our marriages and families by starting on our knees with God praying and studying His Word. Secondly, let’s be the dads who ask God to teach us His decrees every day of our lives, leading and guiding us by the Holy Spirit! Thirdly, let’s be the dads who stop trying to be self-sufficient and lean in and trust God so that we may follow Him to the end of our lives.

How can God teach us to be consistent?

  • “How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” Psalms 119:9
  • “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” Psalms 119:11
  • “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Psalms 119:105
  • “Direct my footsteps according to your word; let no sin rule over me.” Psalms 119:133

These verses suggest that by reading and meditating on God’s Word, we can gain wisdom and guidance to live a consistent life. We can also ask God to direct our footsteps according to His Word and help us avoid sin.

It’s important to note that consistency is not about being perfect, but rather about striving to do our best and staying true to our values. As we seek to live a consistent life, we can trust that God will be with us every step of the way.

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How can we consistently learn God’s decrees? It requires we spend time:

  • In the Word: Psalm 119:15 says, “I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways.” By reading and meditating on God’s Word, we can gain wisdom and guidance to live a consistent life.
  • Worshipping: Psalm 119:164 says, “Seven times a day I praise you for your righteous laws.” Worship is a powerful way to connect with God and learn more about His character.
  • Praying: Psalm 119:169 says, “May my cry come before you, Lord; give me understanding according to your word.” Prayer is a way to seek God’s guidance and ask for His help in understanding His Word.
  • Learning from others: Psalm 119:24 says, “Your statutes are my delight; they are my counselors.” We can learn a lot from other believers who have studied God’s Word and can offer insights and guidance.
  • Depending on the Holy Spirit: Psalm 119:18 says, “Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.” The Holy Spirit can help us understand God’s Word and apply it to our lives.

By following these tips, we can consistently learn God’s decrees and grow in our faith.

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What can we do to ensure that not only us but our wives, kids, and world know and follow Jesus to the end?

  • Live according to God’s Word: Psalm 119:9 says, “How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” By living according to God’s Word, we can set an example for our loved ones and the world around us.
  • Teach God’s Word to our families: Psalm 78:4 says, “We will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord, his power, and the wonders he has done.” By teaching our families about God’s Word, we can help them grow in their faith and knowledge of God.
  • Be a witness to the world: Matthew 5:16 says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” By living out our faith in front of others, we can be a witness to the world and help others come to know Jesus.
  • Pray for our families and the world: 1 Timothy 2:1 says, “I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people.” By praying for our families and the world, we can ask God to work in their lives and draw them closer to Him.

By following these tips, we can help ensure that not only us but our wives, kids, and the world know and follow Jesus to the end.

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Further more, it starts with a routine, a habit:

Today’s Devotional speaks to the importance of consistency and building good habits in the lives of our kids. We learn how for Reese Kauffman, his mother instilled the consistent habit of “brush your teach and read your Bible” before going to bed. Even when he grew apart from God, we learn how that habit or routine never stopped. In Today’s Devotional we discover how one day this routine got him to Psalm 119 as he was getting ready for bed and “God spoke to him and got ahold of his life.” As we know from Proverbs that we are to raise our kids up in the way they should go and when they are old they won’t depart from it. Today’s Devotional shares how “years later, he still maintains the same ritual: brush your teeth and read your Bible” as he leads Child Evangelism Fellowship as president.

Today’s Devotional closes speaking to how “perhaps the most important aspect of Bible study is consistency. It’s better to study a little in God’s Word every day than to try to absorb lots of the Bible in random study.” It calls us to “find a pattern that works for us that we can stick to”.

It’s interesting the quote that closes Today’s Devotional. It mirrors and parallels what we learned about the routine of brushing your teeth and reading the Bible before you go to be as not brushing your teeth will lead to tooth decay.

A lack of Bible study leads to “truth” decay.


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