How to direct our kids when it comes to relationships?

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We all have our own experiences and with age, we know the impact of our actions and decisions. Furthermore, can we relate and use our experiences to help direct our kids when we were living different lives? Nevertheless, does our experience make sense in their new world? Can we apply it in a way that makes sense? Can God help us to extrapolate on our experiences in order to provide wisdom and direction to our kids?

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direct our kids - God's Word as our map and the Holy Spirit as our compass
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Firstly, I lacked a relationship with God growing up, which contrasts my kids’ experiences. Secondly, though they follow God, they still desire things and face challenges similar to mine. Thirdly, in these moments, I turn to God to align my thoughts with His Word. Finally, this way, I can give wise counsel to my kids.

Let’s turn to God’s Word and see what we can receive through God’s Verse of the Day.

Verse of the Day:

Jesus replied to them, “I am the Bread of Life. The one who comes to Me will never be hungry, and the one who believes in Me [as Savior] will never be thirsty [for that one will be sustained spiritually].

John 6:35 AMP

To direct our kids requires that we trust and acknowledge God for wisdom

Trust in and rely confidently on the LORD with all your heart And do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].

Proverbs 3:5-6 AMP

Apply this to how to direct our kids when it comes to relationships

We shouldn’t rely only on our own experiences. Trust and rely on the Lord. Instead of saying “Do what I did,” acknowledge God. Point our kids to God. God knows all the answers. Trust Him and He will make our path straight. Tell our kids to trust, lean on, acknowledge, and wait for God.

Let’s direct our kids by applying God’s Word to their specific situations and ask the Holy Spirit to provide us with the words of wisdom required rather than our own words.

  • Be a spiritual leader in your family by nurturing your own relationship with God. Model seeking Him as the bread of life and the source of your satisfaction.
  • Encourage your children to seek God for their daily sustenance and satisfaction, both through prayer and by reading and studying the Bible.
  • Provide practical examples of what it means to hunger and thirst for righteousness, such as serving others, practicing forgiveness, and seeking to live a life pleasing to God.
  • Teach your children the value of relying on God and trusting in His provision. Help them to understand that He is the ultimate source of all good things.
  • Share with your children how God has sustained you through difficult times, and how your faith has provided you with strength and hope.
  • Set aside regular times to pray together as a family, asking God to provide for your needs and help you to hunger and thirst for righteousness.
  • Teach your children about the importance of sharing what they have with others in need. Encourage them to be generous and compassionate, following Jesus’ example of loving others.
  • Show your children how to find satisfaction in the simple things in life, such as spending time together as a family and enjoying the beauty of God’s creation.
  • Encourage your children to ask questions about their faith and to seek answers through prayer and study. Help them to understand that their hunger and thirst for God is a lifelong journey.
  • Pray for your children daily, asking God to help them to hunger and thirst for righteousness, and to grow in their love for Him.

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