10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer – Day 5

The Bible.com (or Bible App from YouVersion) has so many great plans to go through and read. As I continue through the list of dad devotionals using their search capabilities, I have come across today’s devotional which is a 12-day devotional titled 10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer. Checking out the publisher’s information and signing up for their newsletters as well as getting to download their survival gear, I am excited to get better connected with them as I believe they have many resources that will be helpful and useful for men who answer the call to step up and step into being the dads God has called and created them to be. Looking into this devotional and trying to better understand the purpose of Manhood Journey, I discovered they are “a ministry who helps dads become disciple-makers. We do this through various tools. Things like blogs, eBooks, Field Guides, Bible studies, digital courses, and live events“. I am so excited to get to go through this devotional with all of you and see where God will take us. I am excited to have gotten to communicate with Kent and to have found their resources as I believe it will be of great help to dads.

The Bible.com site describes this plan as follows:

“Feel overwhelmed—or worse—like a failure? We took your most-pressing challenges and matched them up with battle-proven, busy leaders who also happen to be dads—to give you theologically deep and super-practical help. You CAN be the dad God calls you to be. This plan will help.”

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer

Today’s devotional points us to Romans 7:18 and Matthew 6:9.

‘For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. ‘

Romans 7:18

‘ “This, then, is how you should pray: “ ‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, ‘

Matthew 6:9

Today’s Word from scripture is an interesting one to consider and contemplate as we step into today and seek to be the dads God created us to be. It brings the reality that there is a battle within us between the flesh and the spirit. There is a battle between the sinful nature we have and the spirit that desires us to do what is good. Let’s expand on what we see from Romans 7:18 to grasp more of what Paul is saying and God wants us to receive and take away in order to be the dads He created us to be.

‘We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.’

Romans 7:14-25

To be the dads, we need to lean into Jesus more. To be the dads, we need to invite Jesus into our hearts to help us overcome the sinful nature and be able to overcome it and move in the spirit. Let’s be spirit-filled! Let’s be let’s not just do what we think but let’s bring it to God and allow Him to help us make the right decisions as dads. Let’s choose to live our lives in a way that will bring God the praise, honor, and glory. So we need to bring our choices to God and allow Him to help us decide. To do this we need to pray. Jesus shares how to pray with us in today’s Word from scripture. So let’s get started by expanding on today’s Word and lift up the Lord’s Prayer:

‘ “Pray, then, in this way: ‘Our Father, who is in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come, Your will be done On earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we have forgiven our debtors [letting go of both the wrong and the resentment]. And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil. [For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.]’ ‘

Matthew 6:9-13

Let’s get started with praising God! Let’s invite God’s kingdom into our very situation and God’s will for our every decision. Let’s seek God for provision in all areas of our lives. Let’s reflect on those who have hurt, troubled, abandoned, sinned against us, and let’s forgive them by letting go of the wrongs and the resentment that was coming with it. Let’s confess our mistakes, our behavior, our sins to God and ask Him to forgive us. Let’s ask God to help us resist the devil and his temptations, we know that the devil is watching us and is seeing our weaknesses and so is trying to get us tripped up and so we need God’s help to help us avoid and resist the temptations and be delivered from the devil’s hands. Let’s thank God and give Him the praise, the honor, and the glory in Jesus’s name for His is the kingdom, the power, and the glory forever and ever, Amen.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Manhood Journey (more details can be found https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information, please visit Manhood Journey: https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/.


Day 5 You’re living with failure and regret.

  • Today’s devotional gives us 7 points to consider on this topic:
    1. Great Expectations
    2. Let me assure you: your story is not complete.
    3. So where does the doubt about yourself come from?
    4. Your standard should be God Himself.
    5. God the Father loves unconditionally.
    6. God the Father is always there.
    7. What benchmark are you trying to live up to as a dad?
  • Do you ever realize the challenge of past failures?
  • Do you ever realize the challenge of past regrets?
  • Why? What is causing you to get stuck there or challenged by the past?
  • We aren’t perfect and we can’t allow the devil to beat us over the head with our screw ups, our failures.
  • God’s Word today speaks to how we have a sinful nature within us and that is the natural man’s nature and desire but that we have receive the Spirit from Jesus and so we can resist it.
  • We don’t have to get stuck in our mistakes!
  • Let’s be the dads who don’t let our mistakes pile up before we turn to the person and apologize and ask for forgiveness!
  • Let’s be the dads who don’t let the failures pile up before we stop and turn back to apologize and ask for forgiveness!
  • Let’s be the dads who turn back to God and ask for help, casting our cares on Him because He cares for us rather than allowing “the growing list of parenting mistakes only raises a cloud of doubt“.
  • Let’s be the dads who turn to God for help and forgiveness so that we won’t get stuck beating ourselves up with the destructive words of the devil like “I haven’t been a good father. I may never be a good father.“.
  • Let’s be the dads who do not get stuck in the mistakes of the past but instead be the dads who are striving to do better and move forward in the power and the strength of God.
  • Let’s be the dads who invite God into our very situation rather than dwelling in the failures and the pain.
  • Let’s be the dads who see ourselves through God’s eyes rather than our own or this worlds that undervalues the importance of dads and our role in being the dads God created us to be.
  • Let’s be the dads who focus on the right benchmarks in life!
  • Let’s be the dads who use the right standards and expectations for ourselves.
  • Let’s be the dads who use our Heavenly Father as our example of how to be the dads He created us to be rather than the faulty examples:
    • Our own father
    • The exact opposite of our own father
    • An idealized fictional father
  • Let’s set our standard to be God Himself! Let’s grab hold of turning to God the Father in prayer!
  • Let’s set our standard for love to be God’s love which is unconditional! Remember how God is love and that in 1 Corinthians 13 we get the real definition of what love is?
    • ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. ‘
      1 Corinthians 13:4-8
  • Let’s be the dads who love our wives and our kids no matter what!
  • Let’s be the dads who love not because of something but rather be the dads who love no matter what!
  • Let’s be the dads who are present!
  • Let’s be the dads who are always there!
  • Let’s be the dads who when we can’t be there will pray and give our kids and wives into the hands of God who is always there!
  • Let’s realize we are human and so we aren’t perfect and we will slip up and make mistakes and so we just need to be turning to God and ask for His help.
  • Let’s realize we are human and so we aren’t perfect and we will slip up and make mistakes and so we just need to be turning to our kids and ask them for forgiveness when we do.
  • Let’s realize we are human and so we aren’t perfect and we will slip up and make mistakes and so we just need to be turning to our wives and ask them for forgiveness when we do.
  • Let’s choose to be the best dads that we can be.

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer – Day 4

The Bible.com (or Bible App from YouVersion) has so many great plans to go through and read. As I continue through the list of dad devotionals using their search capabilities, I have come across today’s devotional which is a 12-day devotional titled 10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer. Checking out the publisher’s information and signing up for their newsletters as well as getting to download their survival gear, I am excited to get better connected with them as I believe they have many resources that will be helpful and useful for men who answer the call to step up and step into being the dads God has called and created them to be. Looking into this devotional and trying to better understand the purpose of Manhood Journey, I discovered they are “a ministry who helps dads become disciple-makers. We do this through various tools. Things like blogs, eBooks, Field Guides, Bible studies, digital courses, and live events“. I am so excited to get to go through this devotional with all of you and see where God will take us. I am excited to have gotten to communicate with Kent and to have found their resources as I believe it will be of great help to dads.

The Bible.com site describes this plan as follows:

“Feel overwhelmed—or worse—like a failure? We took your most-pressing challenges and matched them up with battle-proven, busy leaders who also happen to be dads—to give you theologically deep and super-practical help. You CAN be the dad God calls you to be. This plan will help.”

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer

Today’s devotional points us to Ephesians 6:4.


‘Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. ‘

Ephesians 6:4

Today’s verse is so important when it comes for us to be the dads God wants us to be. It speaks to the dos and don’ts. It provides us with an “instead of … do this”. Remember from a few days back in another devotional when we looked at this verse and considered what it means? Let’s be the dads who don’t “irritate and frustrate (someone) intensely“ our kids but instead love them and help them through training and instruction of the Lord. Let’s be the dads who don’t infuriateincenseangerannoyirritate, madden, enrage, send into a rage, inflameantagonizeprovokeirkvexgallpique, try someone’s patience, get on someone’s nervesmake someone’s blood boilmake someone’s hackles rise, make someone see red, get someone’s back up, rub up the wrong way, ruffle someone’s feathers, drive to distraction, exacerbatehumpraspinfuriatingannoyingirritatingmaddeningantagonizingprovokingirkingirksomevexingvexatiousgallingtryingtroublesomebothersome, and displeasing our kids but instead leading by example, teach and train them in the ways they should go and should live, building a relationship and trusting God through it all. Let’s be the dads who love our kids so much that we let them see us leaning in, spending time, and praying to God. Let’s be the dads who love our kids so much that we allow them to see us making time to be with God and hear from Him. Let’s be the dads who love our kids so much that we bring God into our situations with them. Let’s be the dads who love our kids so much that we show them how to hear from God in His Word. Let’s be the dads who love our kids so much that we teach them how to pray and speak with God as well as to pause and listen in order to hear from God. Let’s be the dads who love our kids so much that we tell them about our experiences with God and what God has done in and through those experiences.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Manhood Journey (more details can be found https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information, please visit Manhood Journey: https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/.


Day 4 You feel distant from your child.

  • Recently while on the topic of THRIVE using the book of Exodus as the teaching instrument, Pastor Josh gave us 3 keys related to picking our battles in order to THRIVE:
    1. We need to fight the fight of trust. Trusting that God is good even when our circumstances are not.
    2. We need to fight the fight of perseverance. We need to keep going and not give up. We need to elevate the power and the authority of God. We need to stick closer to God so that we can’t be isolated and tricked by the devil to quit.
    3. We need to fight the fight of unity. We need to be moving forward in unity at the speed of health. Unity requires a leader you can trust. Unity requires we fight the fight daily as there is an opposition who is trying to cause division.
  • As we consider today’s verse it speaks to the importance of picking our battles too, as we don’t want to exasperate our kids.
  • As we consider today’s verse it speaks to the importance of picking our battles too, as we want to be teaching and training our kids.
  • Another translation of Ephesians 6:4 says:
  • It’s an interesting thing when we think about picking our battles and how we don’t want to provide our kids to anger.
  • Let’s be the dads who aren’t provoking our kids to anger!
  • Let’s be the dads who don’t irritate our kids by finger pointing, fault-finding, and the likes, chipping away at their self-esteem.
  • Let’s be the dads who are more interested in building up our kids than tearing them down through disciplining and instructing them in the ways of the Lord.
  • Let’s be the dads who are working to build trust with our kids and picking battles that help build and foster that.
  • Let’s be the dads who are pressing in on perseverance and helping our kids learn and realize they shouldn’t give up and how great our God is.
  • Let’s be the dads who are pressing in on perseverance and helping our kids grab hold of and cling to God’s authority and power.
  • Let’s be the dads who help our kids not give up but persevere!
  • Let’s be the dads who encourage our kids through unity to keep trying and never give up!
  • Let’s be the dads who speak the truth in love to our kids so that they can be built up and persevere!
  • Let’s be the dads who speak life into our kids so that they realize how valued they are by us and by God. Press on! Persevere!
  • Let’s be the dads who come alongside our kids and help them know they aren’t alone and that if life knocks them down to get back up again.
  • Let’s be the dads who are available and present for our kids! If life knocks you down 9 times get up 10.
  • Let;s be the dads who choose wisely when to make an issue a battle.
  • Let’s be the dads who try to energize our kids rather than tire them out, wear them down, and make them quit.
  • Let’s be the dads who pick our battles so that we don’t tire ourselves and our kids out.
  • Let’s be the dads who listen to the words and signals of our wives about how we are acting and behaving.
  • Let’s be the dads who listen to the wisdom and observations of our wives when it comes to how we pick our battles and when we need to step back.
  • Let’s be the dads who don’t try to go it alone but instead surround ourselves with experienced dads who can provide us with insights and wisdom.
  • Today’s devotional shares some advice around picking our battles.
    1. Having Perspective
    2. Timing is Everything
  • Today’s devotional gives us advice on perspective:
    • In the moment, what is the most important lesson?
    • Once you know that, you need to share it and teach it to your kids.
    • Don’t be distracted by the noise and the clutter.
    • Don’t be bombarding your kids with every lesson under the sun as it will overwhelm them, exasperate them, and provoke them to anger.
    • Let’s be the dads who pick the most important lesson and teach that to our kids so that they can receive and retain it.
    • Let’s be the dads who pick the most important lesson so that our kids receive and reatin the most valuable knowledge they can from the situation.
    • Let’s be the dads who help build up, strengthen, and encourage our kids with the key points so that they can walk out their lives with God and under His power and authority.
    • Are you ready to be the dad who gives their kids what is most important, most valuable, and most impactful?
  • Today’s devotional gives us advice on timing:
    • Let’s consider if right now is the right time to deliver the message.
    • Let’s consider if right now they are in a state to be able to receive the message.
    • Let’s consider if right now will support or reinforce the lesson you want to give.
    • If you want to correct a behavior then you probably need to make sure you are doing it in context so it connects.
    • If you want to speak correction or a life lesson then you might want to make sure you are in the right state of mind too.
    • Are you mentally, emotionally, and physically in the right state to be able to deliver the message?
    • Are they mentally, emotionally, and physically in the right state to be able to deliver the message?
    • We need to make sure we don’t blow things out of proportion or context by picking the wrong time.
    • We need to make sure we pick the right place too so that it may be something and somewhere where it is just the two of you.
    • Let’s be the dads who are aware of what is going on so that we can pick the right timing to speak and instruct our kids.
  • Today’s devotional leaves us with this question to ponder:

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer – Day 3

The Bible.com (or Bible App from YouVersion) has so many great plans to go through and read. As I continue through the list of dad devotionals using their search capabilities, I have come across today’s devotional which is a 12-day devotional titled 10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer. Checking out the publisher’s information and signing up for their newsletters as well as getting to download their survival gear, I am excited to get better connected with them as I believe they have many resources that will be helpful and useful for men who answer the call to step up and step into being the dads God has called and created them to be. Looking into this devotional and trying to better understand the purpose of Manhood Journey, I discovered they are “a ministry who helps dads become disciple-makers. We do this through various tools. Things like blogs, eBooks, Field Guides, Bible studies, digital courses, and live events“. I am so excited to get to go through this devotional with all of you and see where God will take us. I am excited to have gotten to communicate with Kent and to have found their resources as I believe it will be of great help to dads.

The Bible.com site describes this plan as follows:

“Feel overwhelmed—or worse—like a failure? We took your most-pressing challenges and matched them up with battle-proven, busy leaders who also happen to be dads—to give you theologically deep and super-practical help. You CAN be the dad God calls you to be. This plan will help.”

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer

Today’s devotional points us to James 1:19.

‘My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, ‘

James 1:19

Today’s Word from God gives us some wise instruction in terms of how we live and respond to situations. It gives us the wisdom to avoid issues and complications that tend to arise when we do it in a different order or in a different way. It tells us we need to be quick to listen first. We run into problems if we are slow to listen or if the last thing we do is listen. Let’s be the dads who are quick to listen. It tells us after we have listened we need to be slow to speak, let’s internalize, contemplate, and pray about what we have just heard. We run into problems when we are quick to respond and speak with a high chance of putting our foot in our mouths as the analogy goes. We trip ourselves up if we don’t take time to consider what was spoken and to hear from God. Let’s be the dads who are slow to speak as our second step. We also run into problems if we are quick to become angry and in some cases so quick that we don’t take time to listen or to speak to understand first. Allowing our emotions to rule us keeps us from accomplishing God’s will and doing what we are supposed to do. Ever lost it and later regretted it? Ever taken hold of the reality of how becoming angry (that isn’t righteous anger) also called the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Let’s be the dads who are slow to become angry as our final step and option. Let’s take note of God’s instruction to us from James. Let’s remember it next time we find ourselves in a situation. Let’s glorify God by being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry! Let’s be the dads who have receptive hearts and as such are able to be quick to listen! Let’s be the dads who have receptive hearts and as such can control our tongues in order to be slow to speak! Let’s be the dads who have receptive hears and as such can control our emotions in order to be slow to anger! Let’s be the dads who are careful and thoughtful listeners! Let’s be the dads who carefully choose the words we are going to speak! Let’s be the dads who are patient, reflective, and forgiving!


Today’s devotional has been provided by Manhood Journey (more details can be found https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information, please visit Manhood Journey: https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/.


Day 3 Culture’s pulling your child away.

  • Where are you seeing your child today?
  • Are they drawing closer to God or being pulled away by society?
  • Are they drawing closer to God and a deeper relationship or are they being pulled into the ways of the world?
  • Are they leaning on God and spending time in His Word or too focused on worldly things?
  • Today’s devotional speaks to us 3 keys we need to take hold of:
    1. Accept your influence
    2. What are you speaking into the lives of your children?
    3. What I’ve learned is that I can lose my voice quicker the louder I respond.
  • Let’s be the dads who are the most influential voices in our kids lives.
  • Let’s be the dads who don’t give up just because it doesn’t feel like it.
  • Let’s be the dads who are positive influences on our kids even when doors slam or tears are shed.
  • Let’s be the dads who speak the truth in love early and often into the lives of our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who are quick to listen to what’s going on in their lives.
  • Let’s be the dads who are slow to speak, let’s listen to understand and choose our words wisely so as to speak life and love and truth into our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who are slow to anger, let’s love on our kids and demonstrate patience, are reflective, and forgiving.
  • Let’s be the dads who build our relationship with our sons and daughters so that they are ready and willing to hear our voice, even when things get tough.
  • Let’s be the dads who speak into their lives what matters!
  • Let’s be the dads whose response leaves a positive and uplifting impression on their hearts and minds.
  • Let’s be the dads whose response to culture speaks to our love and hope for our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads whose first or quick response to culture isn’t anger because we disagree with it.
  • Let’s be the dads whose first or quick response to culture isn’t shouting because we disagree with it.
  • Remember how our kids are watching up and learning from us and so we need to model our responses as we would want them to respond when they are faced with similar situations in the future.
  • Let’s not give up our voice to speak into our kids lives by being the dads who are yelling and screaming and losing it all the time.
  • Let’s grab a hold of what today’s Word from God has to say and teach us.
  • Let’s be the dads who are loaded with love and joy, unity and building up, and gentleness and respect!
  • Let’s remember what today’s devotional warns us about: “We can’t battle the culture if we’re locked and loaded with hatred and disagreement.
  • Let’s be the dads who equip our kids on how to deal with this culture!
  • Let’s be the dads who show our kids how to respond and react to this culture!
  • Let’s grab hold of what today’s devotional tells us about how to best equip our kids to battle this culture when it says: “Our children can’t battle this culture if all we’re giving them is ammunition without an ounce of gentleness and respect.
  • So let’s be the dads who have our kids ears.
  • Let’s be the dads whose voice can be heard even in the midst of the noise of society.
  • Let’s be the dads whose voice can be heard even over the noise of culture fighting for their ears.
  • Let’s remember as God’s Word tells us we are not alone and we weren’t created to go it alone!
    • Remember what Ecclesiastes 4 says:
    • ‘Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. ‘
      Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
  • So we aren’t fighting this battle alone!
  • Our kids aren’t fighting this battle alone!
  • We are in this together and so let’s be the dads who walk out this life, this battle alongside our kids and with God!
  • Let’s be the dads who share the truth that has stood the test of time!
  • Let’s be the dads who share the truth that will last for and stand for eternity!
  • Lets be the dads not driven out of fear and worry but instead stand on the truth and are bold and courageous!
  • Let’s be the dads who are like Joshua who said “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!”
  • Let’s be the dads who are confident rather than fearing having our voices heard in the ears of our kids!
  • Let’s be the dads who influence our kids inspite of what the culture is trying to influence them to do or be!
  • Let’s grab hold of and remember the final 2 statements from today’s devotional:

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer – Day 2

The Bible.com (or Bible App from YouVersion) has so many great plans to go through and read. As I continue through the list of dad devotionals using their search capabilities, I have come across today’s devotional which is a 12-day devotional titled 10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer. Checking out the publisher’s information and signing up for their newsletters as well as getting to download their survival gear, I am excited to get better connected with them as I believe they have many resources that will be helpful and useful for men who answer the call to step up and step into being the dads God has called and created them to be. Looking into this devotional and trying to better understand the purpose of Manhood Journey, I discovered they are “a ministry who helps dads become disciple-makers. We do this through various tools. Things like blogs, eBooks, Field Guides, Bible studies, digital courses, and live events“. I am so excited to get to go through this devotional with all of you and see where God will take us. I am excited to have gotten to communicate with Kent and to have found their resources as I believe it will be of great help to dads.

The Bible.com site describes this plan as follows:

“Feel overwhelmed—or worse—like a failure? We took your most-pressing challenges and matched them up with battle-proven, busy leaders who also happen to be dads—to give you theologically deep and super-practical help. You CAN be the dad God calls you to be. This plan will help.”

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer

Today’s devotional points us to Proverbs 22:6.

‘Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. ‘

Proverbs 22:6

Today’s Word from God speaks to the importance of investing in our kids. That we need to be the dads who pour life and truth and love into our kids at a young age and lead by example how we are to be in a relationship with God and how to live out our lives. I realized later in life the importance of a relationship with Jesus but a lot of the principles and ways to live were poured into me by my parents and grandparents. So we need to decide that we want to be the dads who will help our kids grow up to succeed. Let’s be the dads who help our kids from a young age to know the way they should go along with the reasons why. Let’s be the dads who realize that it is never too late to pour into our kids and help them get back on track. Let’s be the dads who keep looking for our kids as they are older to turn back to God if they depart or to press in deeper if they never walk away. Let’s be the dads who train our kids as they grow up. Let’s be the dads who direct our kids as they grow up. Let’s be the dads who demonstrate the way our kids should go as they grow up. Let’s be the dads who teach our kids to seek God’s wisdom and will for his abilities and talents. Let’s be the dads who pray for our kids as they get older that they will stick with God, lean in on God, and trust Him for wisdom and direction all the days of their lives. God’s Words of wisdom speak to us from proverbs how important this is and how when we start them off on the way they should go they will remember and lean in on it so that when they are old they will not turn away from it.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Manhood Journey (more details can be found https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information, please visit Manhood Journey: https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/.


Day 2: You’re not sure whether you’re winning or losing. 

  • Ever played the game of life? Spining the wheel and getting to make life decisions?
  • What about this life you are living now? How are you deciding which decisions to make when they are real?
  • In this life you are living now, are you being the dad who knows what is most important to pass down to your kids?
  • In this life you are living now, are you being the dad who wants to pass down to your kids what is most important?
  • In this life you are living now, do you know what is most important to pass down to your kids in order to be the dads?
  • Is it about education? Is it about athletics? Is it about finances? Is it about a relationship with Jesus?
  • Let’s be the dads who lead by example and show the importance as head of the household to have a relationship with Jesus and to follow Him and His ways in and through our lives.
  • Let’s be the dads who show our kids by the lives we live what a Christian should look like!
  • Let’s be the dads who grab onto today’s verse so that we can know that by having raised them up to know God and how to be a Christian that they will choose to live it out for themselves!
  • Let’s be the dads who are training up our kids in the way they should go!
  • What does that mean to you? What does that look like to you?
  • Let’s be the dads who play a major role in shaping who our kids become.
  • Let’s be the dads who help our kids know what’s truly important!
  • Let’s be the dads who point our kids to Jesus rather than to worldly things!
  • Let’s be the dads who point our kids to Jesus rather than to worldly accomplishments!
  • Let’s be the dads who help our kids to realize the importance of having a relationship with Jesus!
  • Let’s be the dads who help our kids build their own relationship with Jesus!
  • Do you know where to start?
  • Today’s devotional gives us tools for our toolbelt so that we can know what to do:
    1. Reading the Bible together
    2. Praying together
    3. Getting involved in their ministry at church 
  • Let’s be the dads who trust God at His Word and choose to keep it simple and “Read a verse or chapter with your kids and ask: what did you guys just read or what questions do you have about God after reading this?“.
  • Let’s be the dads who point our kids to God rather than ourselves! Remember that “Praying goes well with reading the Bible.“.
  • Let’s be the dads who get involved with our kids in ministry! Be it helping in kids or youth ministry. Be it having them come serve with you in another ministry.
  • Let’s be the dads who track when our kids as us questions about stuff that matters!
  • Let’s be the dads who mark those moments down as victory moments, as memorials of success!

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer – Day 1

The Bible.com (or Bible App from YouVersion) has so many great plans to go through and read. As I continue through the list of dad devotionals using their search capabilities, I have come across today’s devotional which is a 12-day devotional titled 10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer. Checking out the publisher’s information and signing up for their newsletters as well as getting to download their survival gear, I am excited to get better connected with them as I believe they have many resources that will be helpful and useful for men who answer the call to step up and step into being the dads God has called and created them to be. Looking into this devotional and trying to better understand the purpose of Manhood Journey, I discovered they are “a ministry who helps dads become disciple-makers. We do this through various tools. Things like blogs, eBooks, Field Guides, Bible studies, digital courses, and live events“. I am so excited to get to go through this devotional with all of you and see where God will take us.

The Bible.com site describes this plan as follows:

“Feel overwhelmed—or worse—like a failure? We took your most-pressing challenges and matched them up with battle-proven, busy leaders who also happen to be dads—to give you theologically deep and super-practical help. You CAN be the dad God calls you to be. This plan will help.”

10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer

Today’s devotional points us to Ephesians 6:4.

‘Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. ‘

Ephesians 6:4

Today’s Word definitely brings a challenge to us men who are trying to be the dads God created us to be. God is so good in not only telling us the pitfall to avoid “do not exasperate your children” but also providing us with instructions on what we should do “bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” So let’s grab hold of what we need to avoid or conquer for a second and grab hold of what God is telling us when He says not to “exasperate” our kids. Checking out the definition of “exasperate” we see it is a verb that means “irritate and frustrate (someone) intensely“. Looking for additional synonyms for “exasperate” we find: infuriate, incense, anger, annoy, irritate, madden, enrage, send into a rage, inflame, antagonize, provoke, irk, vex, gall, pique, try someone’s patience, get on someone’s nerves, make someone’s blood boil, make someone’s hackles rise, make someone see red, get someone’s back up, rub up the wrong way, ruffle someone’s feathers, drive to distraction, exacerbate, hump, rasp, infuriating, annoying, irritating, maddening, antagonizing, provoking, irking, irksome, vexing, vexatious, galling, trying, troublesome, bothersome, and displeasing. So let’s be the dads who know our kids. Let’s be the dads who understand our kids. Let’s be the dads who speak love and life into the lives of our kids by training them up in the way they should go so that when they grow up they won’t leave it. Let’s be the dads who speak love and life into the lives of our kids by instructing them in the ways of the Lord. Let’s choose to be the dads who aren’t trying to annoy or irritate our kids but rather love and raise them in the knowledge and trust of God.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Manhood Journey (more details can be found https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information, please visit Manhood Journey: https://www.manhoodjourney.org/fieldguides/.


Introduction to 10 Challenges Every Dad Must Conquer

  • Ever gotten to the point of feeling overwhelmed by being a dad?
  • Ever gotten to the point of feeling like a failure being a dad?
  • Do you remember what caused it or triggered it?
  • This devotional tries to summarize for us what is and can be found in the Field Guides for dads.
  • I’m trying to grab and share these tips, these challenges, these strategies and share them with you and point you back to them to be able to dig deeper or to reach out to me to discuss it more too.
  • I’m trying to build relationships with dads as well as other leaders who are focusing on helping dads be the dads God created and purposes for them to be.
  • So let’s jump in and see what today’s devotional can tell us when it comes to a challenge to overcome and some strategies and scriptures to help us be overcomers as God calls us to be more than conquerors!
    • ‘What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.’
      Romans 8:31-39
  • Let’s be the dads who are intentional in how we raise our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who want and help our kids to grow up in the knowledge and in relationship with God.
  • Let’s be the dads who want their kids to be able to relate to God in a personal way.
  • Let’s be the dads who look to protect our kids and help them to be guarded from evil.
  • Let’s be the dads who empower and lead our kids in a way to help them grow up to be strong men and women of God.
  • Let’s be the dads who are ready, willing, and able to do this in spite of how much this world tries to push it away, resist it, and even counter attack it.
  • Let’s be the dads who live out our lives God’s way and aren’t knocked off course by the lies of the devil who tries to keep us from being the dads God created us to be.
  • Let’s be the dads who aren’t fooled or tricked by comparison with others or coveting others.
  • Let’s be the dads who try so hard that when we make a mistake we are humble enough and we love our families enough that we repent and apologize, seeking forgiveness and reconciliation.
  • Where are you at today? Are you feeling like a failure and needing God to help you get back up again? Are you feeling exasperated by everything on your plate? Are you a dad who is facing these challenges and asking questions like what is shared in today’s devotional?
  • Let’s be the dads who are willing to face these challenges head on.
  • Let’s be the dads who will take the time to look into each of these questions by continuing to read through this plan.
  • Let’s be the dads who are ready to dig deeper and even visit the Manhood Journey site to get more insight or details, to dig deeper into God’s Word from the Bible, and spend more time in prayer asking God for wisdom and discernment to accomplish His plans and purposes in and through us.
  • Remember how we are to be more than conquerors? More than conquerors through Christ who strengthens us. So we need to invite Jesus into our challenges to help us overcome them and conquer them.
  • Let’s take the time over the next set of days in this devotional and learn from the Manhood Journey devotional using God’s Word to lead and guide us to become overcomers!
  • Let’s pick up the survival gear they share with us and look for ways to use them in our lives so that we can be the dads that God created and purposed us to be, that our wives need us to be, and that our kids want us to be.
  • Let’s keep adding to our tool belts things that can help us Be The Dads!
  • Let’s be the dads who never stop working on getting better and working on how to use the tools and solutions we discover in this journey.
  • Let’s be the dads who look to see where and how we can apply the tools and solutions we discover in this journey for the glory of God and the good of our kids, our wives, and our world.
  • Let’s be the dads who can remember the buckets of challenges and which tools and solutions will help in each of those cases.
  • Let’s come back tomorrow (or you can feel free to jump into the devotional yourself) and start to pick up and use the solutions, the strategies, and the scriptures they provide to be the dads God created us to be.
  • Let’s be the dads who realize that we aren’t alone! God never created us to do this alone!
  • Let’s be the dads who are ready and willing to look for and ask for help!
  • As I mentioned in the intro, feel free to check out Field Guides for dads and dig deeper into each of the challenges and solutions.
  • Let’s be the dads who are ready to dig deeper so as the have battle-proven resources to help us lead our families.
  • Let’s be the dads who are ready to lean in on God and His Word to be able to get theologically deep and superpractical help.

Father Like The Father – Day 7

Today brings our reading and learning from the devotional Father Like The Father to a close.

I appreciate God’s leading and sorting of articles so that the topics and instruction we can get around be the dads are on point and speak the truth in love. I have been blessed with my interaction with them as they gave guidance and support for my posts. Bible.com introduces the devotional like this:

Throughout Scripture, God is called Father. Yet how does He father His children? What parenting principles can we learn by observing His interactions with humanity? This seven-day study will examine key Scriptures which will help you to father like the Father.

Father Like The Father

Today’s devotional is connected with the following scripture Deuteronomy 4:31.

‘For the Lord your God is a merciful God; he will not abandon or destroy you or forget the covenant with your ancestors, which he confirmed to them by oath. ‘

Deuteronomy 4:31

Today’s Word from God brings an incredible perspective on who our Heavenly Father is. Today’s Word along with the title of today’s devotional brings to mind what it would look like and what would it take for us to be the dads God created us to be. Let’s be the dads who are merciful! So that means we need to be forgiving, compassionate, gracious, lenient, clement, pitying, forbearing, humane, mild, softhearted, tenderhearted, kind, kindly, sympathetic, patient, humanitarian, liberal, easygoing, permissive, tolerant, indulgent, generous, magnanimous, beneficent, benign, benignant, benevolent, show mercy to, have mercy on, have pity on, spare, pardon, forgive, let off, be lenient on/to, and deal leniently with. Let’s be the dads who stick with it and will not abandon or do things that would destroy our kids. So that means we have to be the dads who won’t desert, leave, leave high and dry, turn one’s back on, cast aside, break (up) with, jilt, strand, leave stranded, leave in the lurch, throw over, or forsake our kids. It also means that we have to be the dads who won’t demolish, knock down, pull down, tear down, level, raze (to the ground), fell, dismantle, break up, wreck, ruin, smash, shatter, crash, blast, blow up, blow to bits/pieces, dynamite, explode, bomb, torpedo, spoil, disfigure, blight, mar, blemish, impair, flaw, deface, scar, injure, harm, devastate, damage, lay waste, ravage, wreak havoc on, waste, disfeature, disrupt, undo, upset, play havoc with, make a mess of, put an end to, end, bring to an end, put a stop to, terminate, prevent, frustrate, crush, quell, quash, dash, scotch, vitiate, sabotage, upset someone’s apple cart, cook someone’s goose, bring to naught, annihilate, wipe out, obliterate, wipe off the face of the earth, wipe off the map, eliminate, eradicate, liquidate, extinguish, finish off, erase, root out, extirpate, kill, slaughter, massacre, butcher, exterminate, decimate, defeat utterly, beat hollow, win a resounding victory over, vanquish, drub, trounce, rout, crush, give someone a drubbing, overwhelm our kids. Let’s be the dads who will build up, preserve, restore and raise up our kids. Let’s be the dads who will stick by, claim, and keep our kids. Let’s be the dads of integrity and stand on our words, say what we will do, and do what we say. Let’s be the dads who will live our lives with honesty, uprightness, probity, rectitude, honor, honorableness, upstandingness, good character, principle(s), ethics, morals, righteousness, morality, nobility, high-mindedness, right-mindedness, noble-mindedness, virtue, decency, fairness, scrupulousness, sincerity, truthfulness, and trustworthiness. Let’s be the dads God created, purposed, and desires for us to be.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Carlos Santiago and FamilyLife (more details can be found http://www.familylife.com)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information on communicating with your kids listen to, Blessing Your Child Through Your Words on FamilyLifeToday.com.


Keep Promises

  • How important is your word?
  • Do you realize the value of words?
  • If you say something, is it as good as done?
  • If you say something, can someone take that to the bank?
  • Are you able to get it done when you say it will be done?
  • Are you able to get it done how you say it will be done?
  • Can someone trust what you say?
  • Let’s be the dads who keep our promises!
  • Let’s be the dads whose words can be trusted!
  • Let’s be the dads whose reputation is good!
  • Let’s be the dads who keep our promises to our wives and our kids, not just our workplaces!
  • Let’s be the dads who can be trusted by our wives and kids, not just our workplaces!
  • Let’s be the dads who have a good reputation at home in addition to the workplaces!
  • Have you ever caught yourself in the midst of a busy day saying “in a little bit” and then get to the end of the day and realize that you dropped the ball and never made the time for your wife or kids?
  • Are you ready to take a stand putting first things first so that you not only set commitments or give promises that can be met but that you put God, your wife, and your family ahead in the prioritization queue to everything else. In the list, everything else can only have as high of a priority as 4. God gets first place. Your wife gets second place. Your kids/family get third place. Everyone and everything else starts at fourth place.
  • Consider the example of our Heavenly Father when we read Deuteronomy 4:31:
  • Let’s be the dads who are promise keepers!
  • Let’s be the dads who are promise keepers at home and at work!
  • Let’s be the dads who realize it may not be easy but it is definitely worth it!
  • Let’s be the dads who do whatever is needed to get it done!
  • Let’s be the dads who aren’t so focused on our careers that we forget about our families!
  • Let’s be the dads who make the same commitment to keeping our promises at home as we do at work!
  • Let’s be the dads who keep our word when we set a timeline or a deadline with our wives.
  • Let’s be the dads who keep our word when we promise to spend time with or play with our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads whose family knows we can be trusted!
  • It’s never too late to make things right!
  • And like the lyrics of the song Believe For It by CeCe Winans, let’s be the dads who when we say it people believe it.
  • It’s never too late to make things right and apologize for the delay!
  • Let’s pray today’s prayer”

With the song stuck in my head, I wanted to include it here so that as we close out on this devotional series we can pause and be encouraged.

Father Like The Father – Day 6

Today we continue the devotional Father Like The Father. I appreciate God’s leading and sorting of articles so that the topics and instruction we can get around be the dads are on point and speak the truth in love. I have been blessed with my interaction with them as they gave guidance and support for my posts. Bible.com introduces the devotional like this:

Throughout Scripture, God is called Father. Yet how does He father His children? What parenting principles can we learn by observing His interactions with humanity? This seven-day study will examine key Scriptures which will help you to father like the Father.

Father Like The Father

Today’s devotional is connected with the following scriptures:


‘And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.” ‘

Genesis 2:16-17

‘He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. ‘

Psalms 147:3

‘The Lord God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them. ‘

Genesis 3:21

Today’s verses speak to me about how much our Heavenly Father cares for us. He cares so much that He sets healthy boundaries, not to keep us from a full life but to protect us from the threats, the temptations, and the behaviors that would bring harm and pain. He cares so much that He finds us in our pain and suffering and steps in to heal our broken hearts and bandages up and puts dressing on our wounds. He cares so much that He comes in and heals our pains and comforts our sorrows. He knows what we have need before we even ask and has it prepared for us. He is our provider, making what we need in order to help us to step in and move forward into His plans and purposes.

God set healthy boundaries when He told Adam and Eve: “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

God meets us right where we are at, knowing what we are going through and in the midst of the pain and the sorrow, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

God was there when Adam and Eve ate of the fruit and created their own coverings when they realized they were naked after eating from the tree of knowledge and yet as they were removed from the garden, God provided for them out of compassion when He “made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them.”


Today’s devotional has been provided by Carlos Santiago and FamilyLife (more details can be found http://www.familylife.com)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information on communicating with your kids listen to, Blessing Your Child Through Your Words on FamilyLifeToday.com.


Show Compassion

Father Like The Father – Day 5

Today we continue the devotional Father Like The Father. I appreciate God’s leading and sorting of articles so that the topics and instruction we can get around be the dads are on point and speak the truth in love. I have been blessed with my interaction with them as they gave guidance and support for my posts. Bible.com introduces the devotional like this:

Throughout Scripture, God is called Father. Yet how does He father His children? What parenting principles can we learn by observing His interactions with humanity? This seven-day study will examine key Scriptures which will help you to father like the Father.

Father Like The Father

Today’s devotional is connected with the following scriptures:


‘So the Lord God banished him from the Garden of Eden to work the ground from which he had been taken. After he drove the man out, he placed on the east side of the Garden of Eden cherubim and a flaming sword flashing back and forth to guard the way to the tree of life.’

Genesis 3:23-24

‘Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. ‘

Ephesians 6:4

‘No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. ‘

Hebrews 12:11

Today’s scripture speaks to us some important instruction when it comes to being the dads God created us to be. God’s Word speaks to us the importance of how we respond when our kids need correction or discipline. We see how for Adam it meant removing him from the garden. It meant taking him from where things were readily available for him to needing him to work the ground to survive. We see how it was a decision based on the consequences of his act of disobedience. We even see how God created a barrier to re-entering the garden and getting to the tree of life. God’s Word also speaks to us about how we aren’t to overdo it when we correct our kids. In Ephesians, we get the message that to be the dads we can’t exasperate our kids, which means we can’t irritate and frustrate them intensely, we can’t
infuriate
, incense, anger, annoy, irritate, madden, enrage, send into a rage, inflame, antagonize, provoke, irk, vex, gall, pique, try someone’s patience, get on someone’s nerves, make someone’s blood boil, make someone’s hackles rise, make someone see red, get someone’s back up, rub up the wrong way, ruffle someone’s feathers, drive to distraction, exacerbate, hump, rasp, infuriating, annoying, irritating, maddening, antagonizing, provoking, irking, irksome, vexing, vexatious, galling, trying, troublesome, bothersome, or displeasing our kids. God doesn’t just tell us what not to do, He provides direction on what we should do instead. To be the dads, we need to bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Just like when God has to discipline or correct us and it isn’t pleasant and can even feel painful, God shares the benefits of discipline and correction long term. The discipline and correction produce a harvest of righteousness and peace when we learn from it, are trained by it, and then live out our lives in alignment with God’s purpose and plan. So let’s be the dads who are there to correct and discipline our kids in a way that won’t exasperate our kids but will instead help them to become the kids who reap a harvest of righteousness and peace because of it. Let’s take the lessons God has taught us and be the dads our kids, our wives, and our world needs each of us to be.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Carlos Santiago and FamilyLife (more details can be found http://www.familylife.com)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information on communicating with your kids listen to, Blessing Your Child Through Your Words on FamilyLifeToday.com.


Discipline

“Polished patent leather shoes, crisp white gloves, and stoic expressions proclaim their readiness. Even while motionless, their discipline is evident. Once the marching begins, the soldiers work in perfect unison. Bayonet-tipped rifles flip within inches of their faces, yet no one flinches. Everyone on the team is precisely where they need to be, when they need to be there.

Their performance is the culmination of countless hours of training and strict adherence to the instructions and corrections of their squad leader. This leader is their model, not just someone who yells at them when they mess up. He is there every step of the way, taking the same risks, and helping them achieve their best.”

Discipline — Father Like The Father
  • You may notice that the word discipline mirrors or the from the same origin as the word disciple.
  • So discipline isn’t all about punishment or stopping bad behavior but it is also about training them up in the ways they should go so that when they are older they will not depart from it. Discipline is about training them and developing in them good behavior.
  • For us to be the dads, we need to become teachers to help our kids know what good behavior looks like.
  • For us to be the dads, we need to lead by example so that our kids can see good behavior modeled for them.
  • Jesus modeled life to the full for us and so we need to learn and live following His example so that our kids will do the same.
  • Let’s be the dads who pick up God’s example of disciplining us and make the goal of discipline to train up our kids to perfection.
  • Let’s be the dads who pick up God’s example of discipline so that we can help our kids remove everything that makes them miss the mark.
  • Let’s be the dads who pick up God’s example of discipline so that just as God wants us to avoid and remove sinful behavior from our lives, we can train up our kids in the same way.
  • Let’s be the dads who help our kids live the lives God intended them to live.
  • Let’s be the dads who walk alongside our kids and holding them to a higher standard that what society is peddeling.
  • Let’s be the dads who give our kids something to strive towards as they live out their lives that calls them to God’s higher calling and standards.
  • Let’s be the dads who offer correction when we see something going out of line.
  • Let’s be the dads who offers the right level of correction based on the situation and the behavior.
  • Let’s be the dads who provide correction for the bettermenet of our kids and our relationship with them.
  • Let’s be the dads who if or when pain is involved in the correction or discipline that it has purpose.
  • Let’s be the dads who point our kids back to the importance and need for God and relying on Him.
  • Let’s be the dads who teach our kids to trust God at His and trust God’s Word.
  • Let’s be the dads whose discipline enhance rather than exasperate our relationship with our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who discipline in order to create disciples of Jesus.
  • Let’s be the dads who use discipline as a way to help our kids with discipleship.
  • Let’s be the dads who are looking for the long term best of and in our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads whose discipline is effective without causing our kids to want to hide from us.
  • Let’s be the dads whose discipline is appropriate and necessary for the here and now as well as for the health of our long term relationship with our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who are more interested in fathering our kids than just being their friends.
  • We can be their friends but we need to be the dads God created us to be first.
  • Let’s be the dads who have a positive impact and influence on our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who live our lives in a way our kids can respect us.
  • So let’s lead by example just as Jesus has done for us.
  • Let’s look to apply discipline as a means and method to help our kids grow to their maximum potential and to become who God has created and purposed for them to be.
  • Today’s devotional closes with this prayer:

Father Like The Father – Day 4

Today we continue the devotional Father Like The Father. I appreciate God’s leading and sorting of articles so that the topics and instruction we can get around be the dads are on point and speak the truth in love. I have been blessed with my interaction with them as they gave guidance and support for my posts. Bible.com introduces the devotional like this:

Throughout Scripture, God is called Father. Yet how does He father His children? What parenting principles can we learn by observing His interactions with humanity? This seven-day study will examine key Scriptures which will help you to father like the Father.

Father Like The Father

Today’s devotional is connected with the following scriptures:


‘Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” ‘

Genesis 3:8-9

‘And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.” ‘

Genesis 2:16-17

‘This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. ‘

1 John 4:10

Today’s scriptures point us to God for His love. We see how God desires an intimate relationship with us, walking through life with us and yet when we walk out of the will of God and break the boundaries He has set up to protect us we feel guilt and fear. God is omnipresent and so we can’t really hide from Him and we can’t really run away from Him and yet He loves us so much to not force Himself on us but hopes that we will make our own decision to invite Him into our lives and to choose to walk out our lives with Him. Where are you today? Are you walking out your life with God or are you trying to go it your own way and avoid God? Let’s be the dads who choose to walk out our lives with God. Let’s be the dads who choose to have an intimate relationship with God so that no matter where we are, what we are doing, what we are thinking, we are looking to live out our lives in alignment with Him and according to His purposes. Let’s be the dads who stick so close to God that He is able to speak the truth and lead and guide us in love through all situations and circumstances. Let’s be the dads who hear what God wants us to do and do it. Let’s go from being hearers of the Word to being doers of the Word. Let’s not allow the lies of the devil to tempt us into doing something that can harm ourselves or our relationships with God. Let’s be the dads who when we get off track, quickly turn back to God, humbling ourselves for what we have done, so He will forgive our sins and heal our land. Let’s be the dads to look to live out our lives in accordance with God’s example of love. Let’s be the dads who sacrifice for our kids. Let’s be the dads who sacrifice for our wives. Let’s be the dads who sacrifice for this world around us. So where are you today? Where are you in relation to your relationship with God? Where are you in relation to your relationship with your wife and kids? How will you choose to live your day? Will you choose to live your today in a way that will bring God the praise, the honor, and the glory? The choice is yours! The decision is yours! It’s in your hands!


Today’s devotional has been provided by Carlos Santiago and FamilyLife (more details can be found http://www.familylife.com)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information on communicating with your kids listen to, Blessing Your Child Through Your Words on FamilyLifeToday.com.


Pursue

  • Have you ever blown it with God? Known you did the opposite of what He told you to do? How did you respond?
  • Adam and Eve knew they had blown it.
  • We see in Genesis 2:16-17 how they had the entire garden of fruit trees to eat from and only one they weren’t to eat from but the devil pursuaded them to do it anyways.
  • Ever blown it and realized you should have obeyed what God had told you? How did you respond? Did you turn back to Him quickly and humbly and then ask for forgiveness? Did you try to mask or hide it? Did you try to hide from Him, like you think He didn’t know or can’t see you?
  • Remember how God is our provider? So He gives us everything we need to accomplish His calling and purpose. Is that enough for you or will you allow the lies of the devil to keep you from His calling and purpose by disqualifying you through disobedience?
  • Remember when you were a kid and you messed up? Remember when you heard your parents coming and how you responded? Did you hide under the bed? in the closet? under a blanket? under a table? somewhere else? It’s the same thing that Adam and Eve did when they heard God coming, they hid.
  • So while you are trying to be the dads and when you see this response, how will you respond? When you see this behavior or pattern, what will you do?
  • You know what they did. You know where they are hiding. Now what?
  • How will you respond when they try to hide?
  • How will you respond when they try to shift the blame?
  • How will you respond when they try to change the subject?
  • How will you handle dealing with the consequences of disobedience?
  • Will you be the dads who show them how much they need you?
  • Will you be the dads who embrace them and tell them how they could of and should have turn to you first?
  • Will you be the dads who will invite them to come to you when they feel tempted for strength, courage, and wisdom?
  • Will you be the dads who will invite them to come and confess what they did because it will allow them to only have to deal with the consequences of that event and not magnify or amplify the consequences by lying about it?
  • Consider what happened with Adam and Eve and how much they needed Him after making such a big mistake.
  • Let’s be the dads who are more interested in our relationships with our kids and our wives than pointing out mistakes.
  • Let’s be the dads who are more interested in being able to come together with our kids and our wives even when they mess up.
  • Let’s be the dads who inspite of the consequences they are going to had to deal with they will know that we love them so much.
  • Let’s be the dads who inspite of the consequences for their actions wants to love and forgive them.
  • Let’s be the dads who inspite of the consequences for disobedience have kids and wives who know they can come to us whenever they get in trouble.
  • So let’s be the dads who follow God the Father’s example and pursue our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who are proactive and go after our kids even before they come to us with a spirit of repentance.
  • Let’s be the dads who are present and pursue our kids even if they hide because of a wrong doing or withdraw because they are growing up.
  • Let’s be the dads who know that our kids need us in their lives, even when they are getting older and building up their independence.
  • Let’s be the dads who build relationships with our kids and make time with them rather than having them withdraw into what society gives them like music, video games, and their cell phones.
  • Let’s be the dads who pursue and are present so that we are always present and available for our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who keep our guards up when it comes to our kids and wives so that to help protect and guide them.
  • Let’s be the dads who provide guidance to our kids even when they don’t think they need it.
  • Let’s be the dads who are willing to pursue like God pursued and make the move like God did by loving us and sending Jesus.
  • Today’s devotional gives us a prayer topic:

Father Like The Father – Day 3

Today we continue the devotional Father Like The Father. I appreciate God’s leading and sorting of articles so that the topics and instruction we can get around be the dads are on point and speak the truth in love. I have been blessed with my interaction with them as they gave guidance and support for my posts. Bible.com introduces the devotional like this:

Throughout Scripture, God is called Father. Yet how does He father His children? What parenting principles can we learn by observing His interactions with humanity? This seven-day study will examine key Scriptures which will help you to father like the Father.

Father Like The Father

Today’s devotional connects with:


‘God saw that the light was good, and he separated the light from the darkness. God called the light “day,” and the darkness he called “night.” And there was evening, and there was morning—the first day. ‘

Genesis 1:4-5

‘And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.” ‘

Genesis 2:16-17

Today’s scriptures speak to the importance of healthy boundaries. They speak to the benefits and drawbacks of staying within the boundaries versus going outside of them. The rules help set the foundation for us. Grace is the oxygen that helps keep things moving forward alive. We see how the first boundary God set was between light and darkness, between day and night, and how they together give us a day. We see how God gave Adam and Eve a boundary to help them stay pure and holy. God set the boundary that they could eat from any tree in the garden except the ones found on the tree of knowledge of good and evil. God let them know the drawback or detriment of eating from the tree of knowledge of good and evil would bring death. So are you ready to live within the healthy boundaries God has given you? Are you ready to live your life with the boundaries that will bring you life? Are you ready to live your life by setting healthy boundaries for yourself and your family? Are you ready to be the dad who sets boundaries for his family so that they can be blessed?


Today’s devotional has been provided by Carlos Santiago and FamilyLife (more details can be found http://www.familylife.com)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information on communicating with your kids listen to, Blessing Your Child Through Your Words on FamilyLifeToday.com.


Set Boundaries

  • Let’s be the dads who set healthy boundaries for our kids for their good, for their well-being, for their lives.
  • Do you remember when they were babies and how we had to setup all the baby proofing?
    • Plug covers as a healthy boundary to keep them getting shocked?
    • Padding on sharp corners to keep them from getting cut or hurt?
    • Baby gates to keep them from falling down the stairs?
    • Baby seats to get them around safely and even home from the hospital?
    • Cribs to keep them safe through the night?
    • Baby monitors to be able to ensure they were safe when they went to sleep?
    • and many more…
  • Do you remember finding the things you missed or forgot because they found them for you? And if you were lucky you stopped them before any harm was done?
  • Do you remember having to change or adjust the boundaries as they grow up? From barely moving to crawling to walking to running?
  • Do you remember trying to stay one step ahead of them but realizing you needed a new safety mechanism, a new boundary to come into place?
  • Do you remember setting curfews? Do you remember setting bed times? Do you remember setting up washing and bathing practices?
  • In the midst of the troubles or pains we face, we need to be the dads who setup clear and concise boundaries for the good of our kids and our families in general.
  • Let’s be the dads who love our kids like God loved Adam and give to our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who are generous and lavish with our kids and yet still set healthy boundaries for them to live within.
  • God set the laws of nature by setting the boundaries between light and darkness.
  • God set the boundaries for Adam when He told him not to eat from the fruit of knowledge of good and evil but that he was free and clear to eat from every other tree.
  • Let’s be the dads who set boundaries to protect our kids like God did for Adam.
  • Let’s realize that no matter how good our intentions just like Adam who received freewill from God, our kids have freewill too and may choose to cross those boundaries.
  • Let’s be the dads who set boundaries to proetect our kids and let them know and realize the consequences if they choose to cross them.
  • For Adam it meant being removed from the garden of Eden.
  • For Adam it meant being having to go and work the land for food.
  • For Adam, his disobedience of crossing the boundary mean inviting sin, pain, and death into the world that continues today.
  • Let’s be the dads who like our Heavenly Father set clear boundaries for our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who like our Heavenly Father set clear consequences for our kids if the break or cross the boundary.
  • Let’s be the dads who like our Heavenly Father who let our kids know the penalty associated with not staying within the boundaries.
  • Let’s be the dads who learn to live within God’s boundaries for our own good.
  • Let’s be the dads who are equipped to better lead and guide our families because we are following our Heavenly Father’s example.
  • Let’s be the dads who equip our kids for when they grow up so that they too can set healthy boundaries for their families.
  • Let’s be the dads who set godly boundaries based on biblical principals from God.
  • Let’s be the dads who ask God for the wisdom and discernment, the boldness and courage to set and enforce the boundaries.
  • Today’s devotional speaks for us to pray:

Father Like The Father – Day 2

Today we continue the devotional Father Like The Father. I appreciate God’s leading and sorting of articles so that the topics and instruction we can get around be the dads are on point and speak the truth in love. I have been blessed with my interaction with them as they gave guidance and support for my posts. Bible.com introduces the devotional like this:

Throughout Scripture, God is called Father. Yet how does He father His children? What parenting principles can we learn by observing His interactions with humanity? This seven-day study will examine key Scriptures which will help you to father like the Father.

Father Like The Father

Today’s devotional connects with


‘Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food. ‘

Genesis 1:29

‘ “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” ‘

Luke 11:11-13

Today’s scripture points us to a good Father, our Heavenly Father as an example of how to be the dads He created, purposed, and wants us to be. We see how our Heavenly Father provides for us, He gives us seeds to plant and the produce of those seeds to eat. God knows we have need of both spiritual and physical food to be able to survive and thrive. God even provides produce so that the food the seeds produce contain the seeds needed to plant again and plant more. We see in Luke how God even challenges us to be the dads when He shows His goodness and how He is available and will give us what we have need of. So let’s not be the dads who would give a snake to our kids when they ask for a fish. Let’s not be the dads who would give our kids a scorpion when they ask for an egg. Let’s be dads who know what our kids need and follow the example of our Heavenly Father in loving them and giving our kids good gifts. Let’s raise the bar by being the dads who will pursue God’s goodness and God’s example in how we will love on and treat our kids. Let’s raise the bar and invite the Holy Spirit into our lives and every situation so that we can have the wisdom we need and the discernment we need to be able to give our kids what they need rather than spoiling them by giving them what they want. Let’s choose to be the dads today that will glorify God in the ways we choose to live our lives and love on our wives and kids. Let’s choose to be the dads today that will bring God the praise, the honor, and the glory by shining for Jesus in the world around us. Let’s be the dads God created, purposed, and wants us to be!


Today’s devotional has been provided by Carlos Santiago and FamilyLife (more details can be found http://www.familylife.com)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information on communicating with your kids listen to, Blessing Your Child Through Your Words on FamilyLifeToday.com.


Provide

  • God is the God of provision! God knows what you have need of even before you ask. Will you humble yourself enough to ask?
    • ‘I rejoiced greatly in the Lord that at last you renewed your concern for me. Indeed, you were concerned, but you had no opportunity to show it. I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. ‘ – Philippians 4:10-13
  • Let’s be the dads to live up to the calling on our lives to be the providers for our wives, our kids, our family, and our community.
  • Let’s be the dads who pick up and take the responsibility of provider seriously!
  • Let’s be the dads who love their wives and partner with them to ensure the family has what is needed.
  • Are you a dad who organizes their life around answering the call or taking on the responsibility of providing for your family?
  • Don’t miss out on everything else that being the dad means though too by getting or being consumed with providing.
  • Choose to receive the message Jesus gave the religious leaders when He said:
    • ‘ “Woe to you Pharisees, because you give God a tenth of your mint, rue and all other kinds of garden herbs, but you neglect justice and the love of God. You should have practiced the latter without leaving the former undone. ‘ – Luke 11:42
    • ‘ “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former. You blind guides! You strain out a gnat but swallow a camel. ‘ – Matthew 23:23-24
  • So let’s be the dads who are both providers and also caretakers of our family.
  • We know that provision is a key element to being the dad God created us to be from His example as the ultimate provider.
  • God even has the name Jehovah Jireh which means the Lord will provide.
  • God provided through creation – like giving the seeds and the plants for us to be able to plant, grow, and eat.
  • God provided an environment for us to be able to live and thrive as His children through creation.
  • God provided a safe place for us to be able to live, thrive, and grow.
  • God provided a place that will be able to meet our physical needs.
  • God provides us with a way to also have a relationship with Him in order to meet our spiritual needs.
  • Let’s be the dads who work to produce a safe place for our wives, kids, and family.
  • Let’s be the dads who work to provide safety and food for our wives, kids, and family.
  • Let’s be the dads who reflect our Heavenly Father’s love by demonstrating our live by the work we do and the provision it brings to the family.
  • Let’s be the dads who grasp the full reality of providing for our wives, kids, and family though as pointed out in today’s scripture from Luke where it says:
    • ‘ “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” ‘ – Luke 11:11-13
  • Let’s be the dads who do not overlook the spiritual needs of our kids and wives.
  • Let’s be the dads who know the difference between good and evil.
  • Let’s be the dads who know how to give good gifts and meet the needs of our kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who don’t try to go and do it all in our own strength and on our own but let’s invite God, our Heavenly Father, into the situations so that we lead by example and show our kids and our wives our dependency on God and how He provides for us.
  • Let’s be the dads who receive and share the biggest and best thing God provides us with, Himself!
  • Let’s be the dads who receive Jesus into our hearts and lives.
  • Let’s be the dads who walk out our lives asking the Holy Spirit to lead us and guide us every step of the way.
  • And just like how God provided us with Himself, we need to be the dads who give ourselves to our kids and wives too.
  • We can’t be working all the time but instead we need to be spending time with and giving of ourselves to our kids and wives.
  • We can’t be spending all of our time away from our families but instead we need to be the dads who spend quality and quantity time with our wives and kids.
  • Let’s be the dads who provide for all of our kids needs! That goes beyond just the physical needs but also includes their spiritual and emotional needs too.
  • Let’s be the dads who make the time to be with and hear from our kids so that we can see, hear, and identify their needs.
  • Let’s be the dads who make the time to be with our kids so that we build a relationship with them and they are able to share their needs, their concerns, their hopes, their dreams, and their worries with us.
  • Let’s not forget to do what is most important! The physical is but a small portion of what they need! Let’s be the dads who provide for their spiritual and emotional well being too.
  • Are you ready to be the dad who will adjust their lives and schedules in order to make time and be present with your kids?
  • Are you ready to be the dad who prioritizes time with your kids over your own personal schedule or activities?
  • Let’s be the dads who provide more than just things but love and support, encouragement and hope.
  • Today’s devotional calls on us to pray:

Father Like The Father – Day 1

Today I started a new search for “dad” devotionals on bible.com and the next one in the series is Father Like The Father. I appreciate God’s leading and sorting of articles so that the topics and instruction we can get around be the dads are on point and speak the truth in love. Bible.com introduces the devotional like this:

Throughout Scripture, God is called Father. Yet how does He father His children? What parenting principles can we learn by observing His interactions with humanity? This seven-day study will examine key Scriptures which will help you to father like the Father.

Father Like The Father

Today’s devotional connects with Genesis 1:28 and Hebrews 1:1-2 which tell us:

‘God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” ‘

Genesis 1:28

‘In the past God spoke to our ancestors through the prophets at many times and in various ways, but in these last days he has spoken to us by his Son, whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom also he made the universe. ‘

Hebrews 1:1-2

It is interesting what God speaks to us in Genesis 1. If we expand on today’s verse we see:

‘So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food. And to all the beasts of the earth and all the birds in the sky and all the creatures that move along the ground—everything that has the breath of life in it—I give every green plant for food.” And it was so. God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning—the sixth day.’

Genesis 1:27-31

God created man and woman, male and female, and told them to be fruitful and increase in number, fill the earth and subdue it. God created man and woman with a plan and a purpose that was good. God created man and woman so that they would come together in a holy union to be able to be fruitful and increase in number. In Genesis 2 we see this spoken to give us additional context where it says:

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Genesis 2:24

God’s plan was for His glory and our good. God’s plan is that we will have hope and a future. God’s plan is good.

God wants to have a relationship with us. He isn’t wanting us to have a checklist of tasks to do and go on with life but rather that we will have a relationship with Him. He desires a relationship where we spend time together, talk with Him, and build a deeper and more intimate relationship. There are many who may be looking for a list or be going through the motions but it isn’t about rituals and routines but rather it is all about having a relationship with God through His Son Jesus Christ. Our second scripture for today’s devotional tells us and points to us how we can have a direct connection and relationship with God. We don’t need to be working through someone else but can have a direct connection and intimate relationship with God. So today as we consider today’s devotional about being the dad that mirrors being a father like the Father, our Heavenly Father, let’s pause and be ready to not only speak but listen to what God has to say to us and through us today so that we can be the dads He created us to be.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Carlos Santiago and FamilyLife (more details can be found http://www.familylife.com)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)

For more information on communicating with your kids listen to, Blessing Your Child Through Your Words on FamilyLifeToday.com.


Communicate

  • Had an interesting conversation on the weekend between dad and father. And yet when I got started on this journey the word dad is what was used. My friend is correct that it takes one act to become a dad and yet a lifetime to be a father. To me they should be the same, dad should not equate to sperm donor. When I say Be The Dads it is the lifetime commitment of how God created us to be the dads. So with that in mind for us to be the dads God desires and created us to be we need to be more like Him, our Heavenly Father.
  • What comes to mind when you think of the word dad?
  • What comes to mind when you think of the word father?
  • Do you equate them to be the same thing or did you have a similar response to my friend?
  • Did something happen in your life that broke the connection because you had a dad who wasn’t a father?
  • Did something happen in your life that broke the connection because your dad wasn’t present and left you with your mom?
  • Did something happen in your life that broke the connection and the trust because your dad didn’t act like or treat you like a father should?
  • Do you realize the impact a father has on the lives of his kids?
  • Do you realize that when we are the dads God created us to be it has a tremendously good impact on our kids?
  • Do you realize that when we aren’t the dads God creates us to be it has a tremendously negative or bad impact on our kids?
  • Do you realize the impact will be that our kids will want to be like us or nothing like us based on how we lived and treated them.
  • So are you ready to be the dads God created us to be?
  • Are you ready to be the dads who resemble our Heavenly Father?
  • Are you wondering what that means?
  • Are you wondering what that looks like?
  • Are you wondering how it can be possible?
  • Thankfully God gave us an instruction manual called the Bible.
  • God calls Himself Father.”
  • Some of our best lessons on how to be a good father come from observing God interact with His children through Scripture.
  • We see in today’s devotional how the qualities of our Heavenly Father will be shared with us over and through this 7-day devotional.
  • Today’s theme or quality is that God is a good communicator! We need to grasp that and lean in and learn to be good communicators too.
    • God spoke creation into existence
    • God spoke to mankind, starting with Adam and continued through angels, dreams, and prophets.
    • God spoke through Jesus
    • God speaks through the Holy Spirit
  • To be the dads like God is our Heavenly Father, we need to learn to communicate frequently!
    • How are you with communicating?
    • Are you feeling drained from busy days or work and have a hard time being able to communicate?
    • Are you talked out after your busy day and not feeling energized enough to communicate with your family?
    • Remember, to be the dads we need to put first things first and so we shouldn’t be using up 90% of our energy on our lower priorities. For me when I had the put first things first aha moment I came to the realization that my priorities (1) God, (2) Wife + Marriage, (3) Kids + Family, … that meant everything else started at (4). So that means we need to put the time and effort into (1), (2), (3) and then (4) and beyond would get the leftovers rather than the other way around.
    • Instead of having little to say to our wives and kids, why not look for ways to engage them with questions about how their day was?
    • Instead of looking to find a place to unwind and get away, why not look for ways to connect with and be with your wives and kids?
    • Why? you may ask.
      • Because they need our input.
      • A dad’s words are powerful
      • A dad’s words can can often define the course of a child’s entire life.
      • A lack of words from dad can leave our kids lost and without direction.
      • We need to be the dads who give our best words to our kids and our wives.
      • We need to make sure the good words we speak don’t only go to our employees and coworkers but that the best ones are given to our kids and wives.
      • We can’t be the dads if we are giving our family the leftovers.
    • What was the last thing you said to your kids?
      • Was it a command?
      • Was it an expression of disapproval?
      • Was it a proclamation of your love?
      • Was it a proclamation of your admiration?
      • Was it a statement of hope for them?
      • Was it a statement of how proud you are of them?
      • What if the last words you say to them was that?
      • Is that the last thing you want them to remember or have in their head about you?
    • Let’s be the dads who are like our Heavenly Father and be good communicators.
      • Let’s pray to God for wisdom to know the words to speak, the words our kids need to hear
      • Let’s pray to God for the boldness and the courage to speak them.

How do I forgive my abusive dad? – Day 5

As I continue to work through the dad devotionals in the order provided by doing a search for dad on Bible.com, I have come to a blog that I know connects with many men, and yet I know that it isn’t me. With being the dads being about all dads, we need to make sure to not limit the topics to the comfortable or easy topics but dig into topics that can be uncomfortable or even difficult. Today’s devotional I found is titled “How Do I Forgive My Abusive Dad? | Devotional Reading Plan | YouVersion Bible“. It is a 5 day devotional by Pastor Mike Novotny from Time Of Grace Ministry. Today we close out on this devotional on a very important topic for many men out there.

The introduction to the devotional from Bible.com is:

Your dad was abusive. How do you forgive him? How do you heal? This video series answers tough questions about how to forgive your abusive father.

How Do I Forgive My Abusive Dad?

Today’s devotional is connected to these verses of scriptures from God’s Word: Luke 15:20-24.

‘So he got up and went to his father. “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him. “The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ “But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate. ‘

Luke 15:20-24

God’s Word is always interesting to me. Our Heavenly Father is always waiting and looking for us to come back when we have strayed. He is waiting to see us turn back to Him so that He can draw closer to us. God doesn’t want any of us to perish but that we would all come to the realization of our need for Him, our need to receive the gift of Jesus, and turn back to Him. Jesus didn’t come to condemn the world but rather that through Him we would be saved. We see this in the story of the lost son also known as the prodigal son where the father is watching and while the son was still a long way off he saw him coming and filled with compassion for him runs out to meet him, giving him hugs and kisses. The son had come to the reality of what he had done and turned back and asked his dad for forgiveness. Let’s be like our Heavenly Father who is ready to receive our kids when they turn back and realize what they have done and how far they had strayed. We see in the verses how the father is quick to want to restore his son and celebrate that he is back and alive. We see in the verses how the father wanted to celebrate having found the son who was lost to the world but was now found. Let’s be the dads who are compassionate. Let’s be the dads who are looking out for the best for our kids. Let’s be the dads who never give up on our kids but hope they will come to their senses if they stray and turn back to God. Let’s be the dads who are always on the lookout when they stray for them to come back. Let’s be the dads who are ready to celebrate their return. Let’s be the dads who are ready to reconcile and restore them. As in this case where the son had no more inheritance because his dad had given it to him already and he had wasted it away, we can still restore them and welcome them back to the world of the living. Let’s be dads who if we have strayed can turn back to our fathers and our Heavenly Father to be reconciled, restored, and received. Let’s be the dads who if we have strayed and hurt our kids that we seek forgiveness not only from God but also from them for our behavior and its impact on their lives.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Time Of Grace Ministry (more details can be found https://timeofgrace.org/welcome-to-time-of-grace/?togipsrc=youversion&togpreselect=1-2)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)


What if His Abuse Led Me to Damaging Behavior?

  • Sometimes hurt people hurt people.
  • Sometimes people who have been sinned against will sin.
  • Sometimes what abusive people say make you think you are dirty and it causes the kids to grow up accordingly.
  • Sometimes the abuse is verbal and what has been said it impacts the way you are now living out your life not thinking you deserve any better.
  • Sometimes the abuse repeats as you find yourself in abusive relationships because you think or feel like you don’t deserve any better.
  • Sometimes the abuse causes you to try to numb the pain and drink too, get high, or even experiment with drugs.
  • Sometimes the abuse causes you to become a workaholic because you want to prove them wrong, that you can do it and you are valued.
  • Are you doing bad things because bad things happened to you?
  • Are you wondering if there is hope?
  • Are you realizing that you have sinned against God?
  • There is hope!
  • Jesus shared about the prodigal son who spent his life doing bad and damaging things on crazy living and he wondered if he could go back, if there was any hope for him when he got to the end of his rope.
  • He wondered if he could go back to his dad and God because he had sinned against both.
  • We see how the Heavenly Father will have compassion if we are willing to turn back to Him.
  • Jesus tells that story for us when we are lost
  • Jesus tells that story for us that we can come back
  • Jesus tells that story for us so that we can be reconciled for what we have done
  • Jesus tells how we can be restored to God and forgiven.
  • Jesus paid the price on the cross for us to be able to forgiven.
  • If you haven’t turned back to God yet, you can do it today.
  • All of heaven will rejoice and celebrate your return for they will say this son of mine was dead but now he is alive again
  • All of heaven will rejoice and celebrate your return for they will say this lost son has been found.

How do I forgive my abusive dad? – Day 4

As I continue to work through the dad devotionals in the order provided by doing a search for dad on Bible.com, I have come to a blog that I know connects with many men, and yet I know that it isn’t me. With being the dads being about all dads, we need to make sure to not limit the topics to the comfortable or easy topics but dig into topics that can be uncomfortable or even difficult. Today’s devotional I found is titled “How Do I Forgive My Abusive Dad? | Devotional Reading Plan | YouVersion Bible“. It is a 5 day devotional by Pastor Mike Novotny from Time Of Grace Ministry.

The introduction to the devotional from Bible.com is:

Your dad was abusive. How do you forgive him? How do you heal? This video series answers tough questions about how to forgive your abusive father.

How Do I Forgive My Abusive Dad?

Today’s devotional is connected to these verses of scriptures from God’s Word:


‘Stay away from a fool, for you will not find knowledge on their lips. ‘

Proverbs 14:7

‘“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. ‘

Exodus 20:12

‘For he himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility, ‘

Ephesians 2:14

God’s Word is amazing and incredible. God’s Word is active and alive. God’s Word can help us be the dads He created, purposed, and planned for us to be no matter what happened to us in our past. Ever heard the saying “birds of a feather flock together”? Today’s first verse from Proverbs warns us to keep an eye on the company we keep because we will find no wisdom in the lips of a fool. We should ask God when we need wisdom like James 1 tells us after reminding us how when we face trials and troubles we should consider them pure joy where it says: “5If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.” So rather than getting ourselves mixed up with fools, let’s turn to God and ask Him for wisdom for the situation you are in. Let’s be the dads who seek God’s wisdom and then receive it and move forward in it!

Our second verse of the day is one that I grab hold of tightly because I didn’t consider it when I did what I did but have since received and enjoyed the blessings of having been obedient to it. When I was at a crossroads in my career I gave my parents and my in-laws two choices thinking that I was ok with either option but wanted to allow them to get to choose and have a say. I asked them if they thought I should leave the company I was working at or stay with the company but move away from them to a new location and they both said I would be crazy to leave the company and so I started looking for a job at headquarters. About two years after changing jobs and relocating, having plugged into a church what scripture was shared and grabbed hold of my heart and how faithful God is when we are obedient to His commandment and will:

‘“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. ‘

Exodus 20:12

I feel like it was the New Testament version of Ephesians 6:2 that says:

1Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2“Honor your father and mother” (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3“that it may go well with you and that you may have a long life on the earth.”

Ephesians 6:1-3

As the blessings were taking place brought these verses back to me and the reminder of how the decision to relocate took place. Taking my wife and our only child at the time thousands of miles away from them, being the dad who honored not only my mother and father but also my mother-in-law and father-in-law. God provided us with a promise when we honor our father and mother that include things going well and having a long life on the earth. So let’s be the dads that make choices to honor God with obedience to His commandments in order that He will be glorified. Let’s be the dads who live our lives in ways that turn to God for wisdom to lead and guide us when we face choices. Let’s be the dads who decide to follow Jesus in order that we can live under the covering of His love and protection. Let’s be the dads who decide to follow Jesus so that we can leave the legacy of faith and faithfulness to our kids and many generations to come. Let’s be the dads who look to take a stand for unity in health, refusing to cause or create division or hostility. Let’s be the dads who are willing to fight the right fights so that our trust in God is strengthened and shared with the kids, wives, and people in our lives! Let’s be the dads who aren’t willing to give up but rather will fight the fight of perseverance in order to not quit on our kids, our wives, and our community but instead will stand up and move forward for the glory of God by persevering for we know that no matter the trouble or the trials when perseverance finishes its work we will be complete and lacking nothing! Let’s grab hold of today’s verse from Ephesians 2 and receive the peace of God, the peace from God, and the peace with God through our relationship with Jesus who made jews and gentiles one group, destroying the barriers, and taking down the dividing wall of hostility!


Today’s devotional has been provided by Time Of Grace Ministry (more details can be found https://timeofgrace.org/welcome-to-time-of-grace/?togipsrc=youversion&togpreselect=1-2)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)


Should I Still Have a Relationship With Him?

  • Ever wondered if you have been abused if you should have a relationship with him?
  • What if you had been abused by your father? Should you have a relationship with him?
  • What if we consider it in relations to what God’s Word says in Exodus 20:12 and Ephesians 6:1-3?
  • When your trust had been broken and they never kept your confidence.
  • The lack of integrity damaged the relationship.
  • Do you go back or do you forgive and just move on.
  • Is it safe to go back? Is it wise to go back? What if it is too painful?
  • The Bible’s answer: maybe but maybe not.
  • Proverbs today says to stay away from a fool.
  • Foolish people are people who sin and don’t really care
  • Their are people who hurt other people and want to do it again.
  • Their are people who mess up but don’t confess and repent.
  • God says it is ok to stay away. You forgive and pray but you can stay away.
  • With you have a relation might compare to hoping into a car with a drunk driver.
  • It’s ok to stay away.
  • The Bible does say to honor your father and mother and that is true but honoring doesn’t mean supporting their foolishness
  • Jesus honored authority but didn’t always do what they asked because they were fools.
  • Scriptures say to stay away from a fool.
  • Don’t be bitter or hate!
  • Staying away from a fool is a godly thing.
  • Should you go back to him? Maybe not or maybe so.
  • What if your dad has changed by the miraculous of God?
  • What if he is aware of his sin and changed his heart?
  • God’s answer may be that you could or should go back – but you need to make sure to have godly and psychological advice before going back though.
  • Jesus forgave everyone to unify everyone.
  • Jesus wanted to take down the hostility and take down the wall to bring unity.
  • Could Jesus work a miracle that makes your dad repent?
  • Could Jesus work a miracle in your heart heart to forgive?
  • In human nature it might seem impossible, shouldn’t happen, but with Jesus through faith could it mean reconciliation is possible?
  • Beware if a fool and consider if he is no longer a fool.

How do I forgive my abusive dad? – Day 3

As I continue to work through the dad devotionals in the order provided by doing a search for dad on Bible.com, I have come to a blog that I know connects with many men, and yet I know that it isn’t me. With being the dads being about all dads, we need to make sure to not limit the topics to the comfortable or easy topics but dig into topics that can be uncomfortable or even difficult. Today’s devotional I found is titled “How Do I Forgive My Abusive Dad? | Devotional Reading Plan | YouVersion Bible“. It is a 5 day devotional by Pastor Mike Novotny from Time Of Grace Ministry.

The introduction to the devotional from Bible.com is:

Your dad was abusive. How do you forgive him? How do you heal? This video series answers tough questions about how to forgive your abusive father.

How Do I Forgive My Abusive Dad?

Today’s devotional is connected to two verses of scriptures from God’s Word:


‘For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. ‘

Galatians 5:17

‘But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. ‘

Galatians 5:22-24

Today’s verses from God’s Words speak to a struggle, a battle, a reality that affects us all. The struggle is real and we need to struggle well. The struggle is real and we need to persevere. Jesus speaks to us about the reality that in this world we will have troubles but that we can take hope because He has overcome the world. So in the battle within between our fleshly also known as the sinful desires (sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like) and our spirit also known as the fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control) we need to cling to and lean on God to keep us in pursuit of the desires of the Spirit. So let’s bring any of the sinful or desires of the flesh and nail them to the cross. Let’s not be tempted into sin but resist the devil so that he will flee. Let’s choose to be the dads who produce the fruits of the Spirit in and through our lives. Let’s be the dads who love! Let’s be the dads who have and bring joy to the situation. Let’s be the dads who have peace and give peace to others. Let’s be the dads who are demonstrating tolerance, toleration, patience, resignation, endurance, fortitude, stoicism, long-sufferingness, leniency, lenity, clemency, indulgence, restraint, self-restraint, self-control, moderation, temperance, and mildness. Let’s be the dads who are kind and show kindness to others. Let’s be the dads who are good and demonstrate goodness to others. Let’s be the dads who are faithful and demonstrate faithfulness to others. Let’s be the dads who know how to be gentle. Let’s be the dads who have self-control. Let’s be the dads who are producing the fruit of the Spirit in and through our lives! Each day we are going to face trials and troubles and God’s Word speaks that we need to consider it pure joy and persevere. In James 1 we read:

‘Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. ‘

James 1:2-4

So today let’s be the dads who choose to take heart because we know that Jesus has overcome the world. Let’s choose to be the dads who consider it pure joy when we face trials and troubles of many kinds. Let’s choose to be the dads who know that the testing of our faith produces perseverance. Let’s choose to be the dads who allow perseverance to finish its work so that we can be mature and complete, lacking nothing.


Today’s devotional has been provided by Time Of Grace Ministry (more details can be found https://timeofgrace.org/welcome-to-time-of-grace/?togipsrc=youversion&togpreselect=1-2)

Reading through today’s devotional, here are some takeaways for me:
(check out the devotional on your own too to see if you pick up other nuggets, and please share your findings in the comments)


I Forgave. Why Do I Still Feel This Way?

  • If you are trying to follow Jesus and you forgave like Jesus then why do you still feel this way?
  • Ever wondered what is happening today? Why are you feeling this way today?
  • There is an answer in the Bible to this question: Galatians 5:17
    • ‘For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. ‘
    • There are 2 spiritual forces in your heart – the spirit that wants to forgive, love, and commit to God
      • the flesh doesn’t want any of that. it wants to be mad. it wants payback. it doesn’t want to do the work of forgiving.
    • They are in your heart and at conflict with each other – which is why it is so hard and to be the dads we need to fight daily to not worry, not be afraid, to be pure, to be kind, to be generous, to not be anxious – every day is a fight.
    • We need to deal with this conflict and so we need to figure out how do we win?
    • It’s like the cartoons with the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other trying to get you to do it their way.
    • How do we listen to the angel and forgive and not listen to the devil and not forgive?
    • The Apostle Paul has an answer – Jesus.
    • Read all of Galatians but as we saw above, in Galatians 5:24
      • Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
      • We want to kill the sinful nature, put it on the cross and walk away.
      • We belong to Christ Jesus!
      • You have the Holy Spirit now because you belong to Christ Jesus!
      • You have commited yourself to a Heavenly Father who will empower your spirit when you don’t know or think you can do it along.
      • Let’s be the dads who belong to Jesus and so can walk with prayer and answered prayers from our Heavenly Father.
      • Like saplings that have supporting posts and ropes to connect to it to support it when the winds blow the stronger posts can support it.
      • You are not alone! Jesus is the stronger posts to help you stand and do this.
      • It will be difficult but it will be possible!
      • With God all things are possible!
      • So with God we can forgive even when we don’t feel like it!
      • Let’s be the dads our kids, our wives, and this world needs us to be irrespective of what happen to us in our past!
      • Let’s be the dads who live out our lives a children of God!
      • Let’s be the dads who trust in Jesus and walk out this life in His ways!